First of all, we want to tell you that we understand your situation and we respect whatever decision that you make. Dealing with an unplanned pregnancy is very difficult and finding someone that you can trust to discuss your options with is very important. We are here to help you.
Is adoption the right choice for me?
A Silver Spoon Adoptions will never attempt to convince you that adoption is the right choice for you. This is your baby and your choice. We are hear to listen to you. We are here to support you. We will never advise you on whether this is the right decision. Adoption is a choice that needs to be made by you…perhaps with the advice and support of the father of your baby, your parents, close friends and/or religious advisor.
It is our belief that most women make the decision to give their child up for adoption because they want what is best for their child. They feel ill equipped to provide emotionally, physically and/or financially for their child, and so they provide their child with a family that will. It is a big decision…perhaps the biggest that you will ever make in your life. It affects many people. You and your family, your child’s father and his family, the adopting parents and their family…and of course the child. Adoption is permanent. If your life changes down the road and you feel that you are in a better position to be able to parent, the adoption cannot be reversed. Careful consideration needs to be given.
We know that you might have come to our site expecting to find information that might help convince you to give your baby up for adoption, but we know that there are many thoughts and opinions and a lot of written material available to pregnant women that outlines the pros and cons of adoption.. You will find myriads of videos, books, blogs, and informational sites that you may find helpful. We recommend that you educate yourself so that you can make an informed choice.
Contacting A Silver Spoon Adoptions does not obligate you to choose adoption; it just gives us a chance to get to know you so that we can help you move forward with the option that makes the most sense for you. We are a private service so all of your information and the phone call itself are completely confidential.
What is open adoption?
A Silver Spoon Adoptions is committed to creating your adoption plan the way that YOU want it planned. Today, women have more control over their adoption plans than ever before by choosing nearly every aspect of the adoption. Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with someone other than the child’s biological parents. Open adoption includes the birth parents and adoptive parents meeting one another, sharing full identifying information, and having direct access to ongoing contact over the years..There are many benefits to open adoption. The birth parents feel at peace knowing they have created the adoption. Ongoing contact through the years enables birth parents to confirm that they made the best decision for their child. The adoptive parents feel chosen and entitled to parent their child. In addition, because they know the birth parents, they do not fear an unknown figure. The child benefits most of all because they know where they came from and where they belong. They also have access to information about their birth parents including cultural and medical history.. There are no rules as to the amount of contact .Some families opt for annual pictures and letters, or perhaps no ongoing contact while some of our families have chosen to have regular “visits” with the birth parents and their extended families. These visits may be arranged annually or more.The important thing is knowing that the type of adoption plan that is best for you and your child is YOUR choice.
Can I receive housing and financial assistance and ?
An unplanned pregnancy comes with unexpected costs and added stress. This is often a deciding factor in a woman’s decision to pursue adoption. You may be wondering how you’ll be able to work while you’re pregnant and how you’re going to pay your pregnancy-related expenses or housing and living expenses.
The legal representative referred byA Silver Spoon Adoptions can provide you with housing options and pregnancy-related adoption living expenses. They will help you find a housing option that will keep you safe, comfortable and healthy during your pregnancy or help you pay the rent or utilities where you already live. The amount of living expenses you are eligible for and how quickly you may receive them may vary depending on the laws of the state in which you reside.
Can I choose the family that adopts my child?
Absolutely ! The advantage of working with A Silver Spoon Adoptions is that you will have more choices than a traditional agency. Because we work with many agencies and attorneys country wide, we will have access to profiles that fit into very specific margins. Some of the questions that you might want to ask yourself are :
What kind of adoptive family do I want for my child? A big family? A small family? Someone that looks like my child? A family that lives in the city, or a family that lives in the country? Is religion important? A stay-at-home mom?
What kind of contact do I want with the adoptive family before the birth of my baby? Phone calls? Pictures? Visits? Perhaps no contact?
How do I envision my hospital stay? Is the adoptive family there for the delivery? Are members of my family there? How much contact do I want with my baby?
We encourage you to make a list of attributes that are important to you. We, in turn, will have our attorneys and licensed adoption agencies send you “profiles” of families that fit the criteria that you are looking for.
How do I choose the adoptive family?
A Silver Spoon Adoptions works with attorneys and state licensed adoption agencies across the United States. They represent families that are seeking to add to their families through the adoption process. These families have all been legally cleared to adopt by obtaining a “home study”.
These families have put together an adoptive parent “profile”, which is a letter or autobiography and a series of photos that will usually depict themselves, their immediate friends and family, and their home and lifestyle. Generally, this profile will include information on the family such as amount of education, careers religion, the type of home and neighborhood that they live in and the treasons that they are seeking to adopt.
Once you have decided on what you are looking for in an adoptive family, you will be sent a packet of profiles that fit your criteria. The number of profiles that you are sent initially will depend on how wide or narrow your criteria is. Although we feel confident that you will be able to find the right family for you and your child with the selection of profiles that you are sent, in the event that you do not find one that appeals to you, we will network to have more profiles sent until you find the right family.
You will also have the option of a phone conference interview with any of the families which will be coordinated by an attorney or counselor.
What is a home study?
An adoption home study is a detailed written report about the adopting family compiled and prepared by a social worker. A home study is required in order to adopt a child. It is used to assess the adoptive family’s ability to parent your child. This home study requires the prospective adoptive family to gather different documents, answer several questions, and explore their reasons for adopting. Through a series of visits and interviews the social worker gets a complete picture of who they are and what life is like in this family. It includes:
All adult members of the prospective parents’ household must also be interviewed.
An accurate evaluation of the physical, mental, and emotional capabilities of the prospective adoptive parent(s) and any other adult members of the household.
A detailed description of the finances of the prospective adoptive parent(s), including but not limited to, income, debts, expenses, and the costs of supporting other members of the family.
A detailed description of the prospective adoptive parent(s)’ living conditions.
If applicable, a detailed description of the prospective adoptive parent(s)’ ability to provide proper care for a child with special needs.
A description of counseling provided to the prospective adoptive parent(s) or plans for post-placement counseling.
Specific assessment of how the above factors would affect the prospective adoptive parent(s)’ ability to care for an adopted child, the number of children that the parent(s) may adopt, and any restrictions on the children who should be placed with the parent(s).
A check of child abuse record, and inquiries into substance abuse, child or sexual abuse and/or domestic violence. These checks and inquiries must relate to each adult member of the prospective parents’ household. The results of these checks and inquiries must be noted in the home study.
If there were any previous rejections for adoptions, or if an unfavorable home study was ever prepared regarding any adult member of the prospective household, explanations must be obtained.
A criminal history of each adult in the prospective parents’ household – failure to disclose any record of arrest and/or conviction, history of any substance abuse, sexual or child abuse, or domestic violence may result in a denial.
ALL families that are presented to you will have a current state approved home study.